Scripture: Proverbs 13 (focus on 13-14, 18)
Observation: Wise people accept feedback and advice, which leads to success.
Application: Have you ever been in a job or an environment where no one tells you how you’re doing? Maybe it’s good? Maybe it’s bad? Maybe it’s somewhere in between? You might as well roll a Magic 8 ball (“Without a doubt,” “Reply hazy – try again,” “My reply is no”) because it might just tell you more than the people around you.
In those moments where it’s unclear, it takes a lot of courage to ask: “How am I doing?” Feedback and advice, even from those closest to us, can be difficult to hear… but it’s key to learning and to growing. In fact, asking that question is one of the wisest things we can do.
Here’s how Proverbs puts it:
“People who despise advice are asking for trouble, those who respect a command will succeed. The instruction of the wise is like a life-giving fountain; those who accept it avoid the snares of death.” (v. 13-14)
Ever find yourself cringing when someone offers you advice or constructive criticism about something you’ve worked long and hard on?
But what if you could switch your perspective, seeing criticism as gentle correction, an opportunity to grow?
“If you ignore criticism, you will end in poverty and disgrace; if you accept correction, you will be honored.” (v. 18)
Learning to receive feedback is a life-long learning process, rooted in security and confidence. When our identity is based on what others say about us, every word carries infinite amounts of weight, and every phrase waits to encourage us or destroy us.
But when our identity is already rooted and secure in what God says about us, every word we receive is an opportunity to grow.
Asking for feedback is worth the ask.
Who’s feedback do you need to hear? Who do you need to invite to speak into an area of your life in a real, unfiltered way? It’s worth asking.
Prayer: God, I pray for the security to ask and receive feedback. I pray that each piece of advice would make me better and help me grow, not dictate my emotional state and response. Amen.